“Happiness is a conscious choice, not an automatic response.” – Mildred Barthel.
The most important part of being happy is choice. Some of our decisions may not have the desired outcome, however, when you focus only on the difficult results you give permission for those external results to control you and negatively influence your moods, to the point where you can become a slave to them.
This doesn’t mean you put your head in the sand and pretend to be happy in the midst of intense worry or fear; it does mean you look at your happiness options – those things you know make you happy. When you apply this approach you realise you can have control of your emotions regardless of the circumstances. To do this step back from the immediate issue, explore other more positive options that will influence those external events, and your internal response, and that will provide you with more clarity and objectivity.
What can you change so your happiness options become more habitual?