“In a society that says, ‘Put yourself last’ self-love and self-acceptance are almost revolutionary.” - Brené Brown
One way of looking at this concept, and being able to understand that we are not being selfish when we put ourselves first, is to imagine a pool of water.
If there is water always flowing out but very little coming in, we quickly become low on resources and find we are operating from a place of dryness. This makes it more difficult to give to others as fully as we would like.
Equally, it is important that, though we need to have that water of refreshment coming in, it’s important to give it away again as well, or the pool becomes stagnant and smelly, and that’s when it becomes selfish and unattractive.
Are you giving yourself to others but not replenishing your own resources? If so start giving yourself some of that time you need to become refreshed and replenished again.
If you would like to know more about relationship coaching phone Mary Parker, The Fast Track Coach, on 07 577 1200 / 021 258 2145, or visit www.thefasttrackcoach.co.nz