Focusing on the ‘can,’ not the ‘cannot’

By: Mary Parker

“Worry often gives a small thing a great shadow.” Swedish proverb.

In the past, the number of times I’ve worried and worked myself up over a situation are too many to count.

The more time I spent worrying over something, the bigger it seemed to grow as I added new scenarios, possibilities and ‘what ifs’ to it. 

In more recent times I have taken a more proactive approach, and looked at what I can and can’t do. I have focused on the ‘cans’ and let go of the ‘cannots’. 

This is not an easy exercise, but one that will become easier with practice. Things gain a more healthy perspective when I hear what is going on in my head - the shadows recede and almost immediately the worry becomes smaller.

What steps can you take to give yourself more perspective around your worries?

If you would like to know more about coaching or supervision, phone Mary Parker, The Fast Track Coach, on: 07 577 1200/021 258 2145 or visit: www.thefasttrackcoach.co.nz

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